Last night we had dinner at a small restaurant where the tables are a bit close but the food is so good that it’s worth it. Next to us was a young couple on a first date, maybe even a blind date. They were into rehearsing the kinds of families they grew up in, and it took no more than a few sentences for each of them to talk about church and religion. It seemed important for them to get that out of the way as soon as possible. Each was raised in a religious family. Each claimed that that God, in some sense, was important to them. Each claimed that since they are now their own adults they could lay aside the idea of church as something they don’t really need any more. Each told the embarrassing story of their friend(s) who keeps asking them to go to church with them, and the variety of excuses they have for not going.
God Won’t Leave Them Alone
In a backward kind of way, each was confessing how important God has been in their lives, but how uncool it is to admit that and, at the same time, appear to be a very cool sophisticated, with it, popular young adult. Yet, their stories were also filled with how God simply won’t let them alone. My own thought was, “Ha, you got that right. This old Episcopal priest is sitting right here next to you sending little prayers of blessing over you, around you and with you.”
If they are locals, it won’t surprise me if they find themselves stumbling into Holy Innocents one of these days. One thing I’ve learned from my friend Fr. Bill about how he has reenergized that little parish is that he is known in every top restaurant, cheap diner, tavern, trinket shop and food bank in town. Whether you are a millionaire local, ordinary tourist or resident homeless, sooner or later you are going to run into Fr. Bill’s name through just about anyone who lives or works on Front Street because he is their friend. I wish I had done more of that, but I didn’t.
I think that evangelism has more to do with little connections like these than with great big national church led campaigns that leave most clergy gasping for air.
You got that right about connections being critical. People can\’t get to know any institution; they get to know people who represent that institution. In my internship I\’ve learned just how important it is to forge relationships with other people. It\’s been hard adjusting and learning exactly how someone so introverted can develop these relationships with others, but it\’s worked out thus far. In fact, I\’ve seen some of the results! A Bible study we threw together in downtown Omaha brought us a great new friend. My parents now go to the Episcopal parish back home because I showed them how much it meant to me. A dear friend\’s mom is working her way back into faith, and she asks me all sorts of questions. It was the Holy Spirit working through me; I couldn\’t leave church without being transformed (kinda like Moses couldn\’t see God without being changed), and people see that. If they can see how the Holy impacts your life, they\’ll look to the source of it (God and the communion we call the Church).
Fr. Bill sounds like a very cool guy! i had coffee with a friend today in a shop that is associated with a local church. my friend (a young pastor himself) pointed out a man who was meeting and greeting those who were having coffee or studying at the tables. the \”man\” was none other than the senior pastor who evidently carves out an intentional part of his week to \”hang\” at the coffee shop. before we left he strolled over to be sure and say hello to us. i found myself intrigued and curious about how he might preach. not a bad marketing strategy…although it felt much more authentic to me.don\’t feel too bad, cp. you are now internationally known here 🙂